My quiet yet happy life changed in many ways since 2017. One major change was when I packed everything Rick and I owned so I can move and transfer to a different place. And yes, I did move during the last week of December 2023.
Packing, sorting, while at the same time, deciding what to keep and what to get rid of was a tough yet much needed chore. I could not help but quietly cry each time I folder Rick's shirts, his toiletries, his pants, shoes,jackets, suits, etc, and and all his personal stuff. I separated those that I was going to ship to his brother-in-law (husband of his sister) who lives in West Virginia.
My younger daughter, my two female friends helped me in boxing and listing the contents and marking each box. The move was tough, but unpacking and again sorting each marked box was much tougher.
My decision to move fast was better for me than to stay in the house that Rick and I shared for twenty years. But moving was very necessary for me to do. I did not want to "relive" the sad and sudden unfortunate accident that happened at home which Rick suffered that caused his death. .
I spent the last day in the house by having a final look around each room, opening cabinets and shelves, etc. making sure nothing was forgotten or left unpacked. Happy and sad thoughts flashed across my mind as I walked into each empty room.
When I finally stepped out to close the front door for the last time, I knew that the whole house was now bare yet my mind and heart are filled with happy and sad memories of how my life was spent with Rick in the house I am now living behind.
So I am now in a 2 bedroom house with a huge basement where all the stuff I want to either donate, keep, or sell are stored. I have sold Rick's car, our 6,000 watts generator, and his guitar. I am still left with many items to sell and donate: a long mirrored dresser, an unused couch, a almost brand new center table, car tools, golf sets, etc.
There is a special part in my current living room where I have Rick's marble urn of his cremains, and ou photos together. These are displayed and his urn has been blessed by a Catholic priest who came to our house to bless the house and the urn..
The move and stay in this new place is only for the time being until I find a more suitable and newer place here in Morris County. .
One other change I decided upon was to accept only a part time 3-days a week work schedule instead of my usual full time work My position is a Business Specialist in the Front Office Dept. So now, I am "semi-retired". I continue to work as working and being busy is a welcome distraction after losing Rick. Besides, I am still able to work and earn, and I enjoy working within an office environment setting. I like my brains to keep being "oiled" to prevent it from being stagnant and be useless
There will be future changes again I am sure. I pray for beneficial changes. Meanwhile, I am hoping to meet the future changes with patience and a grateful heart.
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